How to Hit the Reset Button

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spk_0 Hi! You're listening to small things often from the Gopman Institute, where we talk you

spk_0 through research-based tips to help improve your relationships in five minutes or less.

spk_0 Today's tip is about hitting the reset button. No matter where you are in your relationship.

spk_0 Starting over with your partner can be a possibility. Even if it feels really dark right now.

spk_0 There's always a chance that you each can be forgiven for your mistakes, because at the end of the

spk_0 day, no one is perfect, and no relationship is perfect. But you have to put in the work to

spk_0 actually start over. And that can begin with putting away your old ways of doing things,

spk_0 and embracing a new way of loving each other. Commit to better communication and learning more about

spk_0 your partner. Ask open-ended questions, and make sure you're really listening,

spk_0 and make a plan to be intentional about your partnership. That could mean waking up a little earlier,

spk_0 so you can have breakfast together instead of rushing out the door without so much as a kind word

spk_0 or glance at each other in the morning, or crawl into bed at night a little earlier than usual.

spk_0 So you can unwind together and talk about your day. You can even think about hitting the reset

spk_0 button situationally. Let's say your day started off on the wrong foot, because you got into an

spk_0 argument with your partner, and now it feels like your day is just going downhill. But here's the thing.

spk_0 Your whole day doesn't have to be ruined. After those tense moments with your partner,

spk_0 give yourself permission to ask for a do-over. It could be an immediate repair when you say,

spk_0 I'm sorry, that came out wrong. Can I start again? Or maybe later on in the day, you could say,

spk_0 I feel bad about how crabby I was this morning. Can we talk about it tonight?

spk_0 And then do something to reset the energy of the day. Listen to music, get up and dance,

spk_0 go for a walk, take a break to meditate, whatever works for you. So get your relationship back

spk_0 on the right track by focusing on how you want to press reset. Think of how you want your new path

spk_0 to be different from the path you're currently on. And then go for it.

spk_0 Here's today's small thing. Talk to your partner about ways you can reset your relationship and

spk_0 make positive changes. Discuss what both of you can do to make each other feel more loved.

spk_0 Thanks for listening to small things often from the Gopman Institute. We are proud to bring you

spk_0 little tips that make a big difference in maintaining and strengthening all of your relationships.

spk_0 We hope you've enjoyed the fourth season of small things often as much as we've enjoyed making it.

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spk_0 delivered right to your inbox. Before we sign off, we just want to remind you of the power of being

spk_0 intentional about your relationship. Lasting love doesn't just happen. It's those purposeful

spk_0 practical gestures of devotion that build a strong connection and keep you and your partner in love

spk_0 for years to come. So don't forget to show fondness and admiration and turn towards each

spk_0 other's bids every day and every chance you get. Our research assures us of this.

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How to Hit the Reset Button

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