584 - The 4 Fundamentals of Lasting Change: Start today and change your life with Molly Claire

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spk_0 Welcome to Crush the Rush, the podcast that's anything but your average business show.

spk_0 I'm Holly Haynes, twin mom, corporate dropout, and business and marketing strategist who

spk_0 built a business and retired myself and my husband in under two years while still putting

spk_0 my kids on the bus driving them to dance class and closing my laptop by 3pm.

spk_0 Around here we ditched the social drama, simplify the strategy and focus on building real

spk_0 businesses with passive income, powerful systems and way more freedom.

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spk_0 Welcome back to the Crush the Rush podcast.

spk_0 Today I'm joined by Molly Claire, a master coach instructor, best selling author and seven

spk_0 figure business builder who helps coaches create real results for their clients while

spk_0 building businesses that actually support their lives.

spk_0 Molly is the founder of holistic match their coast training and the host of the masterful

spk_0 coach podcast and her philosophy is simple but powerful coach more market less.

spk_0 In this conversation we're actually diving into the fundamentals of lasting change.

spk_0 So as a coach how to build emotional resiliency as a leader we're going to go through the

spk_0 four steps and really digging into some of the practical behind the scenes shift goal

spk_0 setting strategies and mindset tools that are going to help you create your next version

spk_0 of success.

spk_0 So if you've been craving a little bit of confidence boost some clarity and proof that it is possible

spk_0 to build a thriving business and a life that you love then this episode is for you.

spk_0 I'm so excited to have you here today.

spk_0 Oh I am I'm so excited to be here and I'm just thrilled about this conversation.

spk_0 I'm excited about this conversation too but before I hit record I feel like we like the

spk_0 behind the scenes conversations are always my favorite and we're talking about kids and

spk_0 school and like our high school experiences and so we always ask our interviewees tell

spk_0 us what a life first business means to you right now what does that look like?

spk_0 So a life first business I mean this has been this really is when I dove into building my

spk_0 business initially I really anchored myself in making sure the business was supporting my life

spk_0 because you know as a single month well it's a month in general right like we we we don't want

spk_0 our priorities to get out of balance we want our life to be aligned and right now specifically

spk_0 in my life I have what my youngest is 14 she's my last one at home and a life first business means

spk_0 that this week when it was labor day while it could be tempting to get in and catch up on things

spk_0 because I've been out of town I spent the day present with her and I remembered that when we

spk_0 keep our priorities aligned and we prioritize the people and the relationships and our sense of

spk_0 presence our business will thrive in the best possible yeah I love that one of the things that you

spk_0 shared was and I can't remember the timeframe but I feel like it was a decent amount of time you

spk_0 went rafting or hiking through the Grand Canyon like how does that work with kids and a business

spk_0 and being able to take that much time off yeah so so one thing I've done in my business is I have

spk_0 intentionally set it up so that I have a very light schedule in the summer so I run a master coach

spk_0 training and and we really hit the ground running January through May and then in the summer my clients

spk_0 have support because they have continued education calls and accountability but I am not teaching

spk_0 curriculum in the summer and I really I mean if you saw I have this huge calendar to the side of me

spk_0 on this wall it's like a big whiteboard calendar and I mark out the days my daughters off of school

spk_0 I mark out the time that I want off and then I build my schedule around that and so I did go on a

spk_0 river trip and eight gay river trip which meant I was completely off the grid for those eight days

spk_0 and of course traveling longer than that and it was one of those things that you know I was having

spk_0 some extra projects in my business coming up this summer and I could just feel and tell I needed

spk_0 that space and a break and the opportunity opened up to go on this river trip with my brother when

spk_0 we had both of our birthdays when we were on the river and I just came to my team and I said I'm

spk_0 going to do this I know we have our book lunch coming up I know we have enrollment I know we have

spk_0 ads running but I know we can do it because we're all here to make a business that supports our life

spk_0 and so we did it we simplified and we figured it out and and I'm so glad it's always worth it

spk_0 always worth it when you were traveling or when you were starting to set up your trip like what was

spk_0 the turning point for you when you're like okay this needs to be like a new current rhythm or

spk_0 this needs to be kind of like a different way of doing things and what did you change

spk_0 you're talking about like right before I left for my team yeah or just in general like hey I need to

spk_0 be able to create a business where I can leave for a couple of days or I can leave things for my team

spk_0 yeah yeah so I it's kind of like I've I've always done some level of that and then over time I get

spk_0 better and better at it yeah and and I will say with this trip because I was going to actually be

spk_0 off the grid it was it was almost like I just had to let go of things possibly not going perfectly smooth

spk_0 right and and as I mentioned I have quite a few things happening at the moment and and one thing in

spk_0 fact I left my phone with my nephew because you know sometimes how you'll need like a Google code

spk_0 and for the most part my team like they run things well but everyone's in all they'll say hey it's

spk_0 going to send you a code yeah and and I haven't quite we've started to solve for this but that was

spk_0 a good reminder to me thinking if I'm needing to leave my phone with I mean it didn't matter

spk_0 because we wouldn't have connection anyway right but if I'm needing to leave my phone because

spk_0 having access to me is that dire in my business this is an indication something needs to be

spk_0 different because I think that especially in a business like mine where I am very much the business

spk_0 we need to be really careful about about being too crucial to the business right because life

spk_0 does happen yeah not control so many things in life so I don't know that answers your question but

spk_0 honestly what and there's a question for me is like those darn codes like we have tried so many times

spk_0 like how do we get around this how do we figure this out like I don't want people I always say like

spk_0 texting for me is the like only in an emergency situation like there should be some other form

spk_0 of communication but those codes like I mean I appreciate the two factor things but

spk_0 so that's a great example I want to begin to so one of the things that you talk about when you

spk_0 or your clients feel like life is maybe a little overwhelming or feels chaotic or you might be

spk_0 in a situation where you're like I know things need to change but I don't know what to do you have

spk_0 these like fundamentals that you talk about can you share with us what that looks like yes so

spk_0 the four fundamentals of lasting change I'll break them down for you you know just quickly touch

spk_0 points mind mastery emotional resilience nervous system and aligned habits and I'll talk through all

spk_0 of them okay but essentially you know these four fundamentals are really a way for each of us like

spk_0 those of you listening to think about creating change for yourself creating a system that supports

spk_0 the changes you want that takes into account the whole person that you are all different parts of

spk_0 you right because we can all you know go to Google a chat GPT and get a plan of action for what needs

spk_0 to change right we can all do that but then why don't we actually implement the changes right and

spk_0 and we need to change our mindset or do we have emotional blocks what is it and the truth is that

spk_0 it's typically a combination of many things and so that's where understanding these four fundamentals

spk_0 really comes into play for my clients as they're creating their own changes and because I'm training

spk_0 them to be coaches helping them to support their clients with it so and I can go through you want me

spk_0 to kind of break them down I'm happy to dig in if you're open to it oh yeah yeah so so mind mastery

spk_0 when we're talking about mind mastery this is the idea that every single one of you listening every

spk_0 person here and and Holly and me right we all have thought patterns we all have ways of thinking

spk_0 about the world ways of thinking about ourselves and belief beliefs that we really just take for granted

spk_0 as truth about the world right and so when I'm talking about mind mastery I'm not really necessarily

spk_0 talking about thinking positively but I'm talking about taking the time to really understand

spk_0 where where you get stuck in your ways of thinking where the ways that you're thinking about your

spk_0 life your business or relationships are limiting your ability to make those changes so that's

spk_0 kind of the essence of the mind mastery piece yeah which feels like we all need I don't know

spk_0 I don't know who would have need that we do we do we all do and you know birth part of what I love

spk_0 about what I do is like I'm not the authority for my clients I'm in this with everyone else right

spk_0 that I'm working on and so it's something for the till the day I die I'll be working on the

spk_0 four fundamentals for myself right yeah yeah 100% all right tell us a second one okay so the second

spk_0 one is emotional resilience and a lot of times we think of emotional resilience as kind of having

spk_0 that grit right being tough and while that's certainly an aspect of emotional resiliency the way

spk_0 that I like to really lean in and teach emotional resiliency is that we all really need to have

spk_0 more of a relationship with our own emotional world because most of us are taught and conditioned

spk_0 and trained to minimize our feelings right don't make emotional decisions don't be so emotional

spk_0 about it we see emotions as this nuisance or something to think when actually when we as human

spk_0 beings can connect with and understand our emotions and work with ourselves emotionally which I

spk_0 know is kind of vague as we're talking about all of these things but but that is how we truly become

spk_0 more of a self-connected human being to where we naturally feel more grounded and anchored and

spk_0 confident in ourselves so it's kind of this difference right between this grit and powering through

spk_0 versus truly being emotionally connected to self and the more emotionally connected we are

spk_0 to ourselves but easier it is to make changes yeah yeah I love that sometimes I feel like I don't

spk_0 know maybe you have clients that are like this where you kind of use grit to like cover your

spk_0 emotion so for me like being an emotional person like forward facing is very difficult like it's

spk_0 so much easier for me to just like oh I'm just gonna work through it or I'll just keep working or

spk_0 keep pushing and you know it will fix itself and so I think I love number two that you're sort of

spk_0 recognizing this like emotional balance all right tell us number three yeah I mean and you nailed

spk_0 it with that especially as ambitious as ambitious women right it's like that that's that's how we've

spk_0 learned to succeed and to be safe in the world but at a certain point we can't do it anymore because

spk_0 we get burned out yeah so we've got two of the fundamentals I'm super curious what the third one is

spk_0 so the third one is nervous system and nervous system regulation and I think we're hearing a lot

spk_0 about the nervous system now and ever and thank goodness because really the nervous system is the

spk_0 backdrop for all of our thoughts all of our emotions and our nervous system is where we have

spk_0 behaviors that are hardwired into our nervous system and and so especially in this well especially

spk_0 coming off the river and being just like totally away from everything I come back to life and

spk_0 realize modern life is pretty stressful and it's very stressful yeah coach because that's what

spk_0 you specialize in like what are some things that you would do to regulate your nervous system because

spk_0 I feel like this is a like we could have a whole podcast on we could have a whole series on this

spk_0 section I know I know yeah in my in master coach training I actually have a nervous system specialist

spk_0 who comes in and she teaches part of the training she has a whole podcast on it her name Leah

spk_0 Davidson so you might want to link to her as well but you know as far as as far as nervous system

spk_0 regulation I think that I think it's we we would all do well to start to learn and understand

spk_0 our own like what is the state of our nervous system and become more aware of times when we are

spk_0 in a state of stress a lot of people don't realize that when we're in a state of kind of

spk_0 overworking and overdoing that's like it it's like a flight response and so I think the first

spk_0 thing is just becoming more aware of those times that we become more emotionally activated and

spk_0 making a practice of pausing and breathing and slowing down to where we're making that pause

spk_0 breathe self-connect more of a pattern for ourselves than the overworking is a pattern because we

spk_0 really truly have to just shift what I don't know you've been into human design at all I share this

spk_0 all the time on the podcast but I'm a manifesting generator and the number one thing that I always

spk_0 read about it is you don't have to make a decision right away you should pause for a second because

spk_0 I like I just I know like I'm just like and most of the time I won't change my mind like I will know

spk_0 right away but I've tried to lean into like okay just take a breath like even if you know the answer

spk_0 or you know what you want to do like you wait 24 hours like it's fine it's okay so I love that

spk_0 yeah all right what is number four and number four is aligned habits and I also talk about this as

spk_0 having an action strategy that actually works because like I said earlier right we can have a

spk_0 plan of action but is it going to work and so anytime we're setting up a plan of action toward our

spk_0 goals or toward whatever changes we want to make we need to understand that our mindset affects how

spk_0 well we follow through our emotional resilience impacts how well we follow through and our nervous

spk_0 system state and so it's like having a plan of action which is going to help us create those

spk_0 consistent habits that make life easier is going to be extra like it's an extremely beneficial tool

spk_0 as we're creating change and and we want to create that plan of action taking into account

spk_0 thought patterns yeah walk us through like what a plan of action might look like like by and

spk_0 incorporating those things okay oh I love this question so one thing I do with my coaches and my

spk_0 training program is we have a quarterly planning call where we plan out what is their goal and so

spk_0 you know will identify what the goal is will identify what are all the things you need to do to get

spk_0 there and we're doing this together and I think there is a lot of I want to speak to this because

spk_0 we can all do this on our own and there's a lot of power in co-regulating with one another in

spk_0 supporting and encouraging one another so we set up this plan together and then one of the things

spk_0 we do is we go through obstacles and strategies and what this might look like is I might say okay

spk_0 so Kim you know one of the things on your list is to you know build this piece of your funnel

spk_0 let's talk about all the things that are going to get in the way of that right and then we and

spk_0 then we list out and these can be things like I might avoid it well we probably all do it right

spk_0 right right right so it's like let's be honest about what's going to get in the way I might be too

spk_0 tired I might feel kind of lazy I might you know be an analysis paralysis you know limited time

spk_0 whatever it is and so we really lay out what are all the things that could and would possibly get

spk_0 in the way and then how do we have a strategy for each of those and this is the piece where I think

spk_0 most of the time we set up a plan and then we go full force and then we hit that point where we

spk_0 are too tired or whatever and then what do we say about it oh I'm just too lazy I'm not good at

spk_0 following through we just make all of these blanket statements that aren't actually solving the

spk_0 problem right and so instead what we do is we say okay let's look at more what does it look like

spk_0 when you're too tired what's going on right and then we're coming up with strategies maybe they need

spk_0 to move the time of day that they're working on whatever this thing is or maybe what they need to do

spk_0 is build in some you know some tapping to work with their emotions or whatever it is so we're really

spk_0 zeroing in on let's remove the shame and judgment about where you get stuck and instead let's look

spk_0 at what's going on for you mentally emotionally and as far as your state and let's have some

spk_0 viable solutions built in so that you truly are supported as a full person with all of these parts

spk_0 of you as you're moving towards it. I love writing down the obstacles I think that's genius because

spk_0 I mean they will definitely be some and I think anticipating that they're going to come I mean

spk_0 you mentioned tired and I feel like that's everyone's obstacle in season like I'm just tired I

spk_0 don't want to do it right now and then like figuring out how to sort of work through what that

spk_0 looks like for you. One of the things that you talk about when you talk about goals which we're

spk_0 sort of talking about is this like no feel formula what does that look like?

spk_0 So the no-fail formula I like to think about it as I love hiking and I love climbing too I love

spk_0 rock climbing and if you think about it like if I'm if I'm climbing up a mountain I can have an

spk_0 anchor at the top right where I'm headed and that anchor is what is going to if it's the ultimate

spk_0 goal of where I'm going and if I stay on my rope right and I keep moving then I know they're

spk_0 going to be obstacles along the way they're going to be places that are slick that are prickly

spk_0 you know gravity's working against me all of these things and so what it is that is going to

spk_0 equip me to get to the top is first of all that anchor of knowing where I'm going and I'll relate

spk_0 this to in practical terms as well right and then being equipped with all the tools and skills I

spk_0 need to get up there I write I want to have good climbing shoes I want to have the mental

spk_0 fortitude I want to have the energy I want to have right all the right gear and so when it comes to

spk_0 a no-fail formula the the fact of the matter is that whether you're building a business or changing

spk_0 a relationship or you know moving your fitness goals forward we think it's going to go in exact

spk_0 certain way and it usually never goes that exact certain way okay so a no-fail formula is not oh

spk_0 it's going to go exactly this way but what it is is it's a commitment to saying if I have a goal

spk_0 like for me I'm like I want to have a business that generates this much money and provides

spk_0 this time freedom and flexibility for me to be present with my kids and have a good quality of

spk_0 life that is my anchor and then what I do is along the way I give myself the support that I need to

spk_0 get there so truly the no-fail formula is perfectly integrated with these four fundamentals it's

spk_0 first and foremost a commitment of where you're going that includes your own priorities and values

spk_0 that clarity and then it's along the way how do I just like I'm giving myself you know the nutrition

spk_0 and the right shoes and the mental fortitude and the rest how am I supporting my mind how am I

spk_0 supporting my emotions how am I regulating my nervous system and how am I having the support

spk_0 system around me to get toward the goal because that's truly how we give ourselves the support

spk_0 along the way to make that end result in heaven one of the things that we do and we because we do

spk_0 also do quarterly planning sessions is every month I have our clients set like an anchor statement

spk_0 so that when they look at oh my gosh I just wrote down like all these things that I have to do but like

spk_0 what's the the reason or the anchor that's like driving you like I'm doing this because or my list

spk_0 is busy right now because of this but like my list is going to get better right now because of this

spk_0 and so I think that sort of like leans into that are there anything that you do that helps you like

spk_0 tie yourself back to that anchor yeah I mean I think that one thing that is crucial and this

spk_0 is something that no matter what my clients come to me for this is where we always start is really

spk_0 getting clear on your ideal quality of life and business you know for my clients because it includes

spk_0 business and it really is a way of assessing what are my personal values and priorities and I think

spk_0 that doing that work I recommend everyone do that work doing that work to really differentiate not

spk_0 what do I think I should value who do I think I should be but like for me personally what actually

spk_0 matters to me what do I want and taking the time to connect with that inevitably it brings us to life

spk_0 as an individual as a human being and then the more you can keep that present I feel like that is

spk_0 what can continue to to bring that just like life force in you to keep moving towards your goal.

spk_0 So I know you have a new book coming out I'm super curious because we like to get behind the scenes

spk_0 how did you balance running your coaching business plus your family plus writing which we know is

spk_0 a huge undertake like take us a little behind the scenes of what that looked like.

spk_0 Oh my gosh right what a question question I ask myself every day.

spk_0 We need to balance it maybe have some lessons learned for us.

spk_0 You know I mean the thing is is by nature I am always going to have many things happening at once

spk_0 right and I think I think the keys are truly to stay focused on what's most important right having a

spk_0 good team and I mean it honestly goes when you when you're talking about how do you balance all

spk_0 that it goes back to what I just said about that anchor because what I know is that I you know

spk_0 having been a single mom and raising three kids two or out of the house now and one is still at home.

spk_0 I think God and myself every single day that I stayed committed to having time with them and not

spk_0 allowing the stresses of life to get in the way and so you know now as I balance all of that I

spk_0 stay anchored there and I prioritize my own self-care my own support and that time with them and

spk_0 ultimately if you do that and you just focus on what matters most yeah how it all works out.

spk_0 I know it's like not a very specific.

spk_0 I mean it kind of does go back to that to that anchor which I think is a great message.

spk_0 Okay a couple rapid fire questions for you.

spk_0 What is one coaching tool that you're using right now that's helping you the most?

spk_0 Oh my gosh I mean that truly I know what has been the biggest difference maker for me and is

spk_0 for so many of my clients as well is we use tapping EFT and they learn how to do that with their

spk_0 clients and for themselves and and I think for me it's it's not just the tapping itself but

spk_0 I find the most power and momentum when I when I really connect with my feelings to try to

spk_0 understand what my emotional needs are currently and why the emotions that I'm having come up in my

spk_0 business or life are coming up and you know our emotions are pretty powerful and when we

spk_0 and I know many of I know at a certain point in time everything I'm saying right now at a certain

spk_0 point to me would have seemed like what in the world is she even talking about.

spk_0 So at the risk of that this is what I this is what I will say anyway to those of you listening

spk_0 is that if if you feel called take a minute today to ask yourself what really matters to me.

spk_0 What is it I'm meeting in my life and just asking those two questions more regularly is going to help

spk_0 every one of us to tune in more to really who we are and the desires we have that will bring us to

spk_0 life and that has become I mean that has become the driving force behind it. Yeah, everything.

spk_0 Those are great questions those are a bit kind of questions that like slow you down but point you

spk_0 in the right direction kind of questions. One more question for you if you could go back to

spk_0 the version of yourself when you started your business what would you tell her now.

spk_0 Oh my gosh.

spk_0 You know what I would say to her I would say listen.

spk_0 Oh, I love that.

spk_0 That's it. That's all I would say because I just remember being terrified and having enough

spk_0 determination and yet just in tears fearful. Can I do this and I just want to tell her like you have

spk_0 no idea how much power is inside you so I love that so much goodness I feel like we could just

spk_0 keep talking about these fundamentals so much is you're listening and you're like I need more of

spk_0 this because there's so much we could go down in terms of coaching skills and holistic training and

spk_0 all the things tell us where everyone can find you and connect with you.

spk_0 So you can find me at my my podcast is called Life Mastered with Molly Claire.

spk_0 So you can find my podcast there you can find me at Molly Claire coaching on Instagram.

spk_0 Molly Claire.com is my website that is where you can join me for master coach training or a level

spk_0 one certification. I offer different trainings. That's where you can find me and I've got a little

spk_0 over 200 podcast episodes. My podcast switched from the masterful coach podcast to life mastered

spk_0 so you can kind of dip into either side of that and then the book the book of course.

spk_0 So if you go to Molly Claire.com you'll find a place where you can I believe when this airs the book

spk_0 will be out so you can get the book there. It's called She rises in sites and wisdom from the

spk_0 women of the master. I'm so excited for that. So make sure you guys check the show notes. We'll

spk_0 link everything and thank you so much Molly. Thank you so much. So awesome to be here.

spk_0 Thank you so much for tuning into this episode of The Crush the Rush podcast. I honestly feel

spk_0 like this podcast is an extension of me and our community and so I hope you come back and listen

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spk_0 And then last but not least if you have questions about today's episode or a topic that you would

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spk_0 it's super cool and like I said I hope that this podcast is just an extension of our relationship

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