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37: The Forced Bridesmaid, the Wedding Villain, and a Shocking Twist
In this episode of 'Here Comes the Drama,' host Christa Innis shares a shocking story about her sister's disruptive behavior at her wedding. The episode also features discussions on wed...
37: The Forced Bridesmaid, the Wedding Villain, and a Shocking Twist
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My sister refused to help.
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For months, every time I asked, she brushed me off.
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With, we have time, it's too early to plan.
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When I flew back home to go wedding dress shopping
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with everyone, she didn't show up.
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Later, she demanded a different dress
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from the other bride's maid because it was special.
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She showed up in the white dress anyway
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with black accents, perfectly matching my invitations
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and decor.
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In the photos, she positioned herself in the middle,
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so much that you barely know I was the bride.
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Hey guys, welcome back to another episode
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of Here Comes the Drama.
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I'm your host, Christa Innis, and I'm exhausted.
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How are you doing today?
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I am just feeling so like, I don't know.
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There's just so much going on.
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I don't know where August went.
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It's here and gone.
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By the time this comes out, it'll be early October,
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but I'm filming it or recording this right now in September.
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And I feel like I blanked in this year
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is like three quarters of the way over.
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I'm so grateful to be doing what I'm doing,
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but it's also very non-stop.
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Sometimes I need to take a step back and just take a deep breath
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because I feel like I'm just on this constant hamster wheel
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of running around, checking things off the box,
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being a mom, being a wife, being a friend, and it's just,
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it's a lot.
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I'm sure you moms or parents with kids going back to school
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are feeling it, mine's too young for that yet.
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So I'm not doing it back to school thing quite yet,
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but it's just wild.
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How the older you get, the years just seem to go quicker
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and quicker and quicker.
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And with a current climate, I just feel like the news is
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suppressing.
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It's a little sad.
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And I hope I can just bring some entertainment to you guys
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with everything going on.
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I don't know.
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It's a lot.
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And I just have to remind myself to be grateful for what I'm
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able to do, being able to do this from home,
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and be able to create.
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A lot of people don't have that.
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And so I don't take it for granted.
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So I just want to say I'm grateful for you guys listening.
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I know I'm going off in a little tangent.
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I've got a lot of feelings this week.
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There's a lot going on.
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All right, so we are going to do things a little different.
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I know I say that, but I feel like it's always a little different
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because we always have new stories.
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We've got two stories at the end for you today.
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We're going to do unpopular opinions,
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which you guys send me on social media.
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We're going to do some of this or that, some hot takes.
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And of course at the very very end,
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we've got some confessions for you,
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and we've got some good ones.
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We haven't shared these for a while.
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I mean, we share them on Instagram stories,
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but we've been shared them on a podcast in a while.
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So you guys are in for a treat.
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Gosh, there were so many.
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Okay, starting things off,
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I just want to read a little review of the podcast.
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It says, as someone in the wedding industry,
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bridal assistant, I enjoy watching your videos
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and I can't wait to hear the rest of the stories.
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That's from Songbird for life.
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So thank you so much, Songbird for leaving that review.
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And again, if you guys enjoy this podcast,
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please share it with a friend or leave a review.
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It really helps more people hear the podcast
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and just means so much to me.
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I want to share just something really fun.
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I know a lot of times on my social media accounts
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and on the podcast, I do skits.
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So a lot of it is about other people's stories and stuff,
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but as many of you guys know,
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I do very, very part time day coordinating.
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Like I'm talking like I did one this year
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and I do one last year.
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I'm talking to a bride right now for one next year.
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I just don't have the time to do it,
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but I love it so much.
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I love it so much.
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I just had the honor of doing one.
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It's been two weeks now,
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but she was just a dream of a bride to work with.
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Just so kind.
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You know what she wanted,
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but also was very like open to hearing ideas.
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We brainstormed, throw a lot of stuff.
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It just reminds me of like why I love wanting so much.
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Like I said, I don't do a much on anymore,
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but it's fun to just get back out there.
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I just did like some partial planning
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with her as we met like every few months
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and then we did day of coordinating.
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So I basically just ran around like,
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you know what, you tell me what you need.
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I got you.
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We did the rehearsal together, but I wanted to share
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instead of like me just blabbing.
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I wanted to share some interesting things
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that they did not do or traditional things
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that they did not do that I thought was so awesome
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the way they did it.
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Or just I should say not traditional things they did.
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That I thought was really awesome.
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And a reminder to anyone listening
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that you don't ever have to stick
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within the guidelines of what your parents tell you
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or what you see in the media or whatever.
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You can do things your own way.
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And I loved this about their wedding.
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Okay, so here's some things that I thought was really cool.
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They had no made of honor or best man.
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They had a wedding party, but it was very like,
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everyone was equal.
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They had a few different speeches,
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but it wasn't like who you would think.
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It was just kind of like different people on each side.
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Some had asked, some were told.
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So I thought that was really cool.
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There were no readings in the wedding.
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The wedding itself, so I led the ceremony
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and I just kind of like organized
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where everyone stood and all that.
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It was really quick.
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I want to say it was 15 minutes max.
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They wanted a really quick ceremony.
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It was beautiful.
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Honestly like out of like Taylor Swift's music video
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or something, so beautiful.
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They did no reading, so it was really quick.
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She had her stepdad officiate
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and I thought he did such a great job.
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He was so nervous.
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He'd never done it before, but he did so great.
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He was so personable.
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And I thought it was a really great way
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to include her stepdad and then she did
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her daddy dot our dance.
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And then both her parents walked her down the aisle
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and then both the groom's parents walked him down the aisle.
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So I thought it was a great way to include all parents in that.
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They also had flower petals on the seat
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instead of just the flower girls having them.
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Everyone could throw them at the ends.
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I thought that was really, really awesome.
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They had no cake.
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And they all up there were like, what?
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But I love that.
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So that's like not a big cake person.
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I just love the little sweets and treats.
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They just did a dessert table.
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So they did no cake cutting.
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And so that was great.
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So it's just a reminder that no matter what it is,
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even if you're like, I'm already married
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or I don't plan on getting married,
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whatever kind of event or just thinking in your life,
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go outside the lines.
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Do what makes sense for you?
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Say goodbye to tradition.
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Yeah, she was such a dream to work with.
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And everyone in the wedding party was just so kind.
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And yeah, it just reminds me of why I love doing it.
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So I get like a little anxious before weddings
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because I'm like such an introverted person.
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I work from home.
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But when you put me in that spot, I got it.
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How can I help you?
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Where can I go to?
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What can I do for you?
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Like, I got you.
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So yeah, I don't really like advertise that I do it much
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just because I don't have much time for them.
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But when I do them, they're so much fun.
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Anyways, okay, into our first segment,
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unpopular opinions.
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These are ones that you guys sent to me on social media.
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So let's talk about it.
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These ones have to do with engage marines.
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So let's talk about it.
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The first one says, the bigger the stone, the better.
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No, it's actually about to commit it.
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Yeah, 100%.
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I mean, they're saying, okay, I guess you can't see.
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They have quotes around the bigger the stone, the better.
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No, it's absolutely not the bigger the stone, the better.
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So I'm agreeing with this person.
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Yeah, I feel like people get so caught up in the ring.
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Yes, I love my engagement ring.
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My husband and I, though, like talked about it
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at a time, like I was very involved in that.
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I know it's different for everybody.
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But there's this idea of like you have to spend this amount.
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You have to do this if you truly love them.
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It's like, no, there are like millionaires
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and billionaires that get married multiple times
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that like spend an crazy amount of money on these rings.
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That does not mean they love the person more.
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If all you can afford is a very basic ring, do that.
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Also fit into their personality.
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If they're not a big jewelry wearer
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or don't like big stones, don't do that.
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So yeah, this person says, I don't like the big
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marry me sign.
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It's overdone.
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I've never seen it personally.
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I see them all out.
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Hands on like Instagram or social media.
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And to me, that's like the Instagram proposal, right?
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That you want everything to look good.
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It's a big flashing lights.
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Some people love that.
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Some people want that public proposal.
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Teach their own.
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This person says, I think proposals are best kept private.
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Keep it intimate for the couple.
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Me personally, yes, I own, I've talked this before.
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I had four of their friends there.
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So I had, it was two of their couples that were with us.
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Had no idea it was going to happen that night.
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I knew it was probably happening soon.
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But yeah, no idea what's happening that night.
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I loved how intimate it was.
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It was our friends backyard.
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We were all hanging out.
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I would not have been comfortable.
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I mean, I don't, I say that now on like hindsight.
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I don't think I would have wanted a big proposal.
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I've been a part of big proposals or big parties.
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Everyone's got their own five.
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It's just important to know your person
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and know what they're comfortable with.
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And that goes for either partner.
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Because let's say the bride really wants this big moment
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and it's in public space.
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But if the groom's not comfortable with that,
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like maybe he's more private.
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He'd rather confess his love for her or ask her to marry him
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in a private place.
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Then you have to like be able to work together some way somehow.
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This one says it shouldn't be a total surprise total
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and complete surprise.
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I 100% agree with this.
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I feel like movies growing up and the way it was presented
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growing up was like, okay, when your partner loves you,
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they're going to propose to you and it's going to be out of nowhere.
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But that sounds like a nightmare.
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If you've never talked about marriage
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or never talked about the next step with your partner,
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I don't think you should be proposing or getting proposed to.
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You need to have that discussion because I've seen stories
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or if you will get proposed when they're like,
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oh, we are not there yet.
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Or they're like, I don't want to get married.
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So yeah, I don't think it should be a complete surprise.
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Maybe how it happens or when it happens.
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Yes, I love the surprise element of the actual proposal.
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But to never talk about getting married together
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or like moving in together.
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And then you're just like, I bought this ring.
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It's like pump the brakes a little bit.
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Let's have the conversation first.
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Okay, next up this or that pick a side wedding drama debates.
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Here we go.
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A band that kills the vibe by skipping your first dance song.
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Or a DJ who keeps people dancing
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but plays cheesy tracks all night.
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If I'm picking one of the other,
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I'm going to go for a cheesy, cheesy DJ.
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Because if people are dancing all night,
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they're obviously enjoying it in some way or another.
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And I am all about it.
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Like I've talked to this before.
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But like my family, we've always been the one
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that's like on the dance floor all night long.
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Same with my husband's family.
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That was one of the things like we go to weddings together
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and I was like, okay, we vibe.
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Because we are on the dance floor all night.
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We're not sitting at our table.
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We are on our feet hanging out dancing.
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I love it.
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Okay, next one below the budget on incredible food.
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Everyone raves about or skip the fancy food
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and have a Pinterest perfect reception.
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I'm going to go incredible food.
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I don't care about Pinterest perfect.
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I don't.
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Endless awkward speeches or no speeches at all
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and offended friends.
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Why are the friends offended because they weren't asked for a speech?
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I would say no speeches at all.
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Sorry to the offended friends.
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If you're offended, sorry.
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I don't know what I would never be offended
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if someone didn't ask me to get a speech.
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I would actually understand.
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If someone didn't ask me because I'd blah blah lot.
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But I think I'd be okay if someone asked me.
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Side story.
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Endless awkward speeches.
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I've told that story so many times
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but I was at a wedding once
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where they just kept passing around the microphone.
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Nothing was planned.
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Everyone just kept going off on a whim.
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It was awkward.
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Nobody wants that.
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A 12 person party full of drama
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or the guilt of leaving people out
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with only one or two by your side.
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See, the way that one's worded
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is like one's better than the other.
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Actually, no, they're both worded bad.
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I guess I'm going to go with the guilt of leaving people out
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with only one or two by your side.
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And the reason I say it
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and I'm someone that had nine bridesmaids.
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Okay, I don't know if I've ever talked about that before
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and I don't regret it for a second.
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I loved it.
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But also my wedding party,
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everyone got along very well.
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They all know each other.
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I mean, they're from different groups.
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Kind of like I'd cousin,
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friends from high school,
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sisters-in-law,
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other friends,
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and then my sister.
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So different groups,
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but they all kind of knew each other.
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But everyone got along great
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so we didn't have any drama.
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So yeah, that's hard though
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when you do have a really big group
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and there's like a lot of drama going on.
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Leave me out of it.
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Especially at my age now.
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I'm just like,
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if I were to do all over again,
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I would probably just have a couple people
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stand up with me and then have the rest
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like just wear a similar color.
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I actually just saw a wedding like that
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and I think that was really beautiful.
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Kids melting down midvows
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or family drama for years after banning kids.
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Ooh, that's a spicy one.
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It depends on who the kid is
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because I couldn't imagine getting married
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without my nieces enough use at our wedding.
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So if one of them had a meltdown,
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I would just be glad they were there, honestly.
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But if it was someone,
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cause I don't think we'd have family drama.
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See, I've read this is a problem with me
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and rapid fire.
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I read into them too much.
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So I'm like,
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hey, that wouldn't happen.
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So if I'm just going straight off the bat,
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I would just say a kid melting down
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because it'd be someone important to me
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plus it's like 20 seconds long.
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Okay, a dreamy destination wedding
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and judgment from family
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or a giant hometown wedding
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you didn't even want.
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A dreamy destination wedding.
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It's funny because I feel like my opinion has changed
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so much since getting married.
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And I've only been married three
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in a half years now.
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But like I always say,
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I was at one of the last ones.
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So we knew exactly what we wanted.
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We've been to so many weddings.
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But if I already get married now
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or years from now or redo it,
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I go destination all the way.
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Small group.
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Cause I already did the whole fun planning of a wedding.
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You know, and so I'm like,
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thought of doing that again.
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And just like, I don't know.
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I don't need to do it for myself.
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Love doing it for other people.
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But yeah.
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Hey drama lovers, big news.
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Grab your copy before the spoilers start showing up
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Okay, let's get into the stories.
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Cause they are long.
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So I want to make sure I have enough time without having to carry
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over to another.
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I got two crazy stories here.
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Let's go.
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Okay.
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My older sister was married first,
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but her marriage only lasted two months.
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While she was divorcing her husband,
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I had just met the man of my dreams.
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We got engaged eight months after dating and planning
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our wedding for five months later.
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Since he was set to deploy soon after my mom was adamant
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that my sister be my maid of honor.
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This is her saying it in quotes.
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You only have one sister and I always wished I had,
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but didn't even though my sister and I weren't very close.
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I had two lifelong best friends who felt more like sisters.
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I went along with it.
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Oh, no.
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Okay.
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So full disclosure.
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I had my best friend,
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Eva, who was at the podcast,
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being my maid of honor and my sister was a bright.
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Mane.
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She was not offended.
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She was actually just very happy to be a bright made.
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I was my sister's maid of honor,
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but she also got married.
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Oh my gosh.
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14 years ago.
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So I was like super young.
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We're both really young.
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And so things were just different.
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But yeah, I knew right off the bat that I wanted my friend.
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I needed to be my maid of honor.
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Plus you also have to look at like when someone's
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your maid of honor,
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there get other responsibilities too depending on different things.
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But your bachelor party,
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maybe you're helping with the shower being your person, right?
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And I talked to my friend and got all the time.
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We'd been to so many different events together.
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And it just was more fitting.
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My sister was not offended.
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She was happy to be a part of the wedding.
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So I talked us before.
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I'm not a fan of when parents or people try to
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convince the brighter groom to have someone be in the wedding
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or be a certain place in the wedding.
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So she went along with it when it came time for my bridal shower
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and bachelor at party,
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which were scheduled the same weekend since I was finishing grad school
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in another state.
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That sounds stressful.
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My sister refused to help for months.
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Every time I asked she brushed me off with we have time.
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It's too early to plan.
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So she's not a planner in the end.
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My mom and I organized everything ourselves.
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But week before the events, my sister suddenly started asking questions
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and got mad that everything had already been handled without her.
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My mom even called me asking me to find something to include her in.
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So you're doing more work because she couldn't be bothered before.
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Okay, so I reminded her that I had been trying for two months,
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but my sister hadn't lifted a finger.
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When I flew back home to go wedding dress shopping with everyone,
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she didn't show up.
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Later, she demanded a different dress from the other bride's maid
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because it was special.
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I wanted them all to match.
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But of course, my parents called me saying she was hurt.
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Oh my gosh.
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Is this an older or younger sister older?
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Okay, the older sister did this.
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Okay, my shower.
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She had narrowed her outfit down to two dresses.
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I told her which one I preferred because the other was too bright.
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She showed up in the white dress anyway with black accents.
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Perfectly matching my imitations and decor.
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In the photos,
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she positioned herself in the middle.
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So much that you would barely know I was the bride.
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So like there's no like necessary rule that at showers and stuff,
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the bride has to be the only one in white.
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But I feel like all the ones I've gone to,
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it's pretty common courtesy.
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I would never show up to a shower or bachelor at wearing all white,
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especially if you ask them their opinion.
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This tends to me like the sister was a little salty about the fact
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that she was going through a divorce.
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It wasn't working and then her sisters moving really fast with this wedding.
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So she's like, I'm going to be involved where I want to be involved.
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And that's unfortunate that you can't just capy for.
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With all the drama building,
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my fiance and I secretly decided to a low what?
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I'm sorry for that sound that just came out of my mouth.
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That just came out of nowhere.
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We got married privately just the two of us,
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but kept it a secret until after the big day.
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Oh, I love when that happens.
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I love that.
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Okay, honestly, it saved me so much stress.
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You go girl.
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The night before the wedding, a massive blizzard hit.
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I was running around collecting last minute deliveries and arrived a little late to my rehearsal.
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Sure enough, my sister showed up in a white gown.
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You guys, this is wild.
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I've never read a story where the sister is like showing up in these gowns.
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Usually the mom or mother-in-law or an aunt or something.
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That's wild because she knows better.
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She's been a bride.
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She knows better.
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It makes me wonder how her wedding was if she was like this at her wedding or
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someone did it to her.
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Like what's a deal here?
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At that point, I didn't even care.
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I went through rehearsal in jeans and snow boots before changing from the dinner.
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You go girl.
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I love this bride.
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The morning of the wedding, all of us,
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my fights, bridesmaids, my sister, my mom and my mother-in-law went to the salon.
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My sister went burst for hair and threw a fit because her hair didn't match the picture she brought.
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She soaked in the corner with her arms crossed.
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Like a toddler.
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I added that.
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While the stylist kept checking in,
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as we were leaving,
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she suddenly sighed,
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fine, I guess someone can fix my hair.
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I told my mom we needed to go since the florist was delivering flowers
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and the photographer was minutes away.
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But she insisted your sister needs to be happy with her hair.
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What is with this mom constantly like defending the older sister for acting like a toddler?
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My guess is this is why she acts this way.
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Is because the parents are always like,
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no, let's go for your sister.
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Like what's the deal here?
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Why is the younger sister acting like so much more mature in this scenario?
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45 minutes later.
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This is wild.
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My sister finally approved her look and acted like nothing had happened.
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On the way back,
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she demanded me stop at CVS for an allergy medicine.
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I tried to say no,
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but my mom cut me off.
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Again, here we go with the mom.
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You know this is hard for her since she just had her wedding.
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Let's do what we can to make her comfortable.
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No!
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This is the bride's day.
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We don't need to make it comfortable for the sister this whole time.
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For context,
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her wedding had been over for a year at this point.
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By the time we got home,
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the florist had already left,
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taking the bouquet to the reception,
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but leaving behind the basis for the bride's maid's table arrangements.
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Oh my gosh.
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The photographer was also waiting on us.
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During picture is my sister shoved her away to be next to me in nearly every shot.
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Nearly every shot,
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loudly declaring,
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I'm the maid of honor.
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This is my spot.
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That's wild.
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I've been the maid of honor twice
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and I was just like, I don't care where I stand.
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I'll stand where you guys want me to.
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I had to specifically request individual photos
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with each bride's maid just so they wouldn't all be dominated by her.
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Oh my gosh.
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It's hard when it's a sibling because it's like,
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you can't just like cut them out.
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Especially the mom is waiting on our hand foot.
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After where she demands to know why she didn't sign the marriage license and accuse.
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Wait, what?
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She demands to know why she wasn't like the witness on the marriage license
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and accuse another bride's maid of doing it.
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When in reality,
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no one had.
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We were already legally married.
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At the reception,
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she pouted when one of my best friends gave a speech,
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rolling her eyes and smirking through it.
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My mom kept excusing her behavior as a hard time for my sister.
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But really,
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this is just who she is.
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And my parents chose to not see it.
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That is so wild.
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I'm so sorry because this is going to never change.
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These parents are going to constantly excuse her behavior.
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Saying, oh, she's going through a hard time.
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It's like, no,
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everyone's going through a hard time from time to time.
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Everyone's stressed from time to time.
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It does not give you the right to treat people a certain way.
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Or especially during your sister's wedding.
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Be happy for someone other than yourself.
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Some guessing they didn't ask the sister to give a speech either.
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A few years later,
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she remarried.
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Wait, before I get to that,
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I was going to say,
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I wish she would have said that moment.
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It's because we're already married.
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Like, I feel like I would have done that in my escape.
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I'd be like,
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because we're already married,
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but I guess she didn't tell her.
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Okay, a few years later,
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she remarried.
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She got engaged when I was seven months pregnant and announced
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they'd be getting married in Hawaii in just two months.
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She told me I had to be there at nine months pregnant.
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You're going to demand that your sister is there.
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Yeah, right.
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I wished her well,
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but explained it wasn't possible.
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I'd be two weeks past my due date and couldn't travel.
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I ended up giving birth a week late.
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She was furious and didn't speak to me for a month.
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This girl is so immature,
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so immature and that parents are allowing it.
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I mean, I don't know how they all they are now,
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but she's never going to be responsible for her own actions.
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If the parents are constantly giving her excuses,
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here's the kicker.
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She's a doctor.
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She knew perfectly well
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that traveling then wasn't possible for me.
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So she's a doctor.
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She's got to be at least what?
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Mid to late twenties.
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How long are you in medical school for?
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Is something like eight years or something?
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12 years, 10 years?
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I don't know.
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I'm not a doctor.
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So I don't know.
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But that is wild to me.
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This whole story is wild to me.
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It's more wild.
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I'm currently in this school.
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But as time comes out, I'll probably be done with it.
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But the Tina and Meg Skit was based on a true story.
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That's when sent me very based,
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like are very inspired, loosely inspired,
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like the first episode where they really idolized one sister
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over the other.
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They did everything for this one engagement and not the other.
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They got mad.
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I don't know.
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All these crazy things, right?
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And people are commenting like,
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parents are really like this.
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This is terrible.
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And I'm like, I read this story and I'm like,
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yep, they are.
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That is to just like put one out of head assault.
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And the other ones just like, no, like your sister's going
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through a hard time.
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I don't know.
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That's wild.
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All right, guys, we got one more story.
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We got so much more fun.
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Our way.
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Okay, let's go story number two.
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About a year after meeting my now husband,
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I went to one of his dance performances
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where I met a dozen of his friends for the first time.
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One girl in particular, let's call her Sabrina,
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immediately sit out.
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These are all change names.
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She was loud, obnoxious and constantly gossiping about people.
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She didn't even know.
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When we entered the theater,
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she insisted on sitting right in the middle of our group.
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It wasn't the best seat,
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but it was the one that guaranteed she'd be the center of attention.
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She didn't say a single word to me.
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And anytime someone asked me a question,
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she talked over me.
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My first impression, not good.
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Yeah, I would say not good either.
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I've met people like that before.
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They don't like when a new girl is brought into the mix
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because they're not the center of attention anymore.
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Fast forward a couple of years,
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we all went on a weekend trip about 20 people,
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the friend group plus partners.
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I hadn't seen Sabrina since that first meeting.
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Oh, wow, a couple of years later.
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Wow, okay.
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And she was exactly as I remembered,
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always needing the spotlight.
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That night, we played a game where you had to catch the liars
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on the opposing team.
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There were special roles.
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And coincidentally, I ended up paired with my boyfriend.
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He had a power that let him check
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someone's card each round.
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And he announced I saw Sabrina's card.
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She's a liar.
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When the voting came out, I said,
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I'm voting against her because my partner saw her card
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without missing a beat Sabrina snap back.
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Oh, so you believe him?
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Like when he tells you he loves you.
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Ooh, this girl's a wild she must have like a crush on him or something.
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I was boiling inside,
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but I managed to smile and say,
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you know what?
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Never mind.
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Now I'm voting against you because you made it personal.
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Oh, I love it.
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Okay.
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The room went silent.
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Everyone voted against her and she was eliminated.
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Lowly, angry about it.
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Of course, I went straight to bed,
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furious that neither my partner nor anyone else defended me.
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The next morning,
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she approached me with a half heart apology.
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So my boyfriend said I was really mean to you yesterday.
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I don't know when, but sorry.
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No, that's not an apology.
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Sorry.
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After that, I avoided her as much as possible.
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I skipped their group gatherings.
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And the one time I tried to go,
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I caught COVID.
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So I took it as a sign that my body really did not want me to be there.
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I would do.
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I'd be like, okay, thanks universe.
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When my husband and I got engaged, I made it clear.
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I would never force him to cut Sabrina out since they've been friends since kindergarten.
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That is really nice.
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Maybe a little nicer than me.
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And I'm a pretty nice person.
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But if someone were to consistently not be very nice to me
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and put me down or put my relationship down,
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I would not give them the same courtesy.
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I just thought,
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think on social media their day.
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And I hope I don't butcher this,
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but it says,
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stopping considerate for people that don't even consider you.
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So there's a little reminder to everybody out there.
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So yes,
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people pleaser as we want to consider people or if they heard our feelings were.
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Maybe they didn't mean it.
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No, stop.
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Stop being considerate of people that didn't consider you.
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She couldn't even apologize.
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Anyway,
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so she said she wouldn't force him to cut her out because they were friends since kindergarten.
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But he shouldn't expect me to interact with her.
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I even joked that she'd pull something dramatic at the wedding.
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Like where white or have her boyfriend propose in the middle of it.
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My wedding dress was a true princess gown.
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Layers of pink and white tool green lace shape like leaves.
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Oh my gosh,
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I want to see this dress sounds beautiful and glittering floral details on our wedding website and invitations.
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We clearly stated white is reserved for the bride.
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Oh, okay.
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I've never seen it like that,
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but I love that you're just up front.
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Put it right on the invitation.
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I wasn't worried about anyone confusing me with someone else,
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but I didn't want photos where the attention could be stolen big.
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Suns so the big day arrives.
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Oh no, oh no.
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We do our first look full of excitement.
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Then go to agree our gas before the ceremony.
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Who's the very first person I see Sabrina and what is she wearing?
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A long,
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flowy white gown.
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What is it?
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All of these stories having people not in the wedding or the bride wearing a white dress and not just a white dress,
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a white gown.
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That is wild.
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This is someone asking for a fight or asking for the attention to me stolen.
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I wonder how long she's with her boyfriend for.
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Maybe it was something where she was mad that she wasn't proposed to first.
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Oh, this is wild, you guys.
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Okay.
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I said wild.
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We should do a tracker of how many times they say wild.
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I've noticed more and more.
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I say it like all the time.
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The best part my husband finally saw her for what she is.
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He apologized profusely to me and the photographers without me even asking.
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Craft her out of all the photos whenever possible.
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There's only one group shot of the friends in my husband without me where she actually looks like the bride.
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We decided the best way to quote unquote punish her with silence.
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No confrontation.
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No drama.
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Just be ignored when all she wanted was to be the center of a time.
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And honestly, that was the sweetest justice of all.
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I love that.
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Okay.
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I said one time in I think as a podcast, a mother-in-law was going to wear a white like told her daughter-in-law that I bought a white dress for your wedding because it's the only color it looked good in.
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And my response was one of the things you could do is just ignore it.
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And so I'm feeling the comments were like, ignore it.
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Oh, I'm not ignoring it.
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Oh, that's exactly that you're giving her what she wants.
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But someone this made such a good point.
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Someone like this is wanting to stir the pot.
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They want to cause a scene.
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They want people to notice them.
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They want the bride to feel inferior.
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And if you don't feed into it, you don't say anything.
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You don't acknowledge it or have other people look or point or say anything.
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You're not giving them what they want.
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They're actually going to leave mad because no one noticed.
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I love that.
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I love that.
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And then only post photos that she's not in.
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Okay.
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I'm getting petty now.
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But actually, is it petty?
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No, she was petty.
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I can't believe how both stories had someone showing up in white.
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These need be skits.
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Oh my gosh, you guys.
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If you're listening to this whole thing, I need to know all your thoughts.
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Go to YouTube, go to Instagram, go to TikTok, comment your thoughts after you listen to this.
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Because these are just crazy.
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These are crazy.
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See I did it from where?
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Okay.
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As promised, I'm going to end this episode.
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Sorry, I'm fidgeting with my hair so much.
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If you're watching this, I'm going to end these episode with some confessions.
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These are pretty wild.
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Okay.
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Here we go.
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I'm thinking.
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Mother and law wore white and black to our wedding with a huge black hat.
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The white, I have more of a problem with.
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I remember reading this for years ago where the mother and law wore black to the wedding,
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like all black.
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And I was like, oh my gosh, like they're dressed with funeral.
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Like there's sons being taken away from them, right?
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But I was thinking about it.
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I'm like, I've worn black to formal weddings before, like a formal black dress.
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I've worn black jumpsuits to weddings before.
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So I don't think black is actually considered that bad, but it's where she wore a huge black
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hat and then a white and black dress because we don't know the style of the dress, but also
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if someone's saying this, like a bright saying this, my guess is there's some kind of issue
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already between them.
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Because again, if you have a good relationship with someone and they showed up like that,
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you'd be like, oh cool, pretty dress.
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But if it's someone that's already got an issue with you, then they're making a statement.
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Okay.
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My cousin was my sister's photographer.
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He didn't give her the pictures for two years and they turned out awful.
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Yeah.
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No, we don't do family for vendors.
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We just don't.
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If they insist, you say, I want you there as a guest.
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I already have a photographer because I've heard so many horror stories about people choosing
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photographers for their wedding.
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That's a family member.
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And I would account like a fish camp from my Dave Corneding story earlier because I think
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that's more personal thing and they can just do it and be done, right?
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But a photographer, you need someone that's really devoted as fully photographer, like
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that's their profession.
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Now, just like a little side gig, someone is going to take a few photos on their iPhone
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or just starting out.
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Okay.
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This one's like a three part one.
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She said, my fiance's best man peer pressured him into asking him to be the best man.
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Anytime he did anything for my fiance on related to the wedding, he said, this is best
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man right here.
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You better ask me.
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We get married in nine months.
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That's awkward.
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I mean, I don't know.
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I don't know how to respond to that.
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I feel like, yeah, maybe they can excel hence that they want to be your best man, but it's
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up to you.
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You have the power.
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You ultimately have the power if they're your friend, sure.
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But if they keep just making comments like that, you're like, oh, I already have someone
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else planned.
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This one's weird.
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Okay.
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Best friends mother in law asked for a mother's son renewal vows on their wedding.
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I mean, mother in law had it best friend divorced him.
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Wait, the mom wanted to renew vows on their wedding day.
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Any more context to this.
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This is wild.
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This is so wild.
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I need more words.
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Help me come up with more words.
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I say amazing and I say, wow, they say crazy a ton.
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Help me come up with more words.
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Maybe help me out and just comment on YouTube.
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Just use some different words so I can get them in my vocabulary because when I find
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one, I just stick to that.
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And that's what we're using for the next month.
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So yeah, I don't get it.
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She wanted vows with her son just like to prove that she's the mom.
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I don't understand.
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All right.
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Oh, last one.
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My sister slash made of honor got drunk before the ceremony.
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She was a show half the day.
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Yeah, alcohol can be a big problem at weddings.
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I'm sure we've got tons of alcohol stories that people have sent me in.
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I've seen it a few times.
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I've seen it a lot of times.
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You get the people that are like fun and drunk or buzz at the weddings and like they're just dancing like,
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yeah, if you know you cannot handle your liquor, holds off to the reception until your duties are done.
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If you have any slight question about it, although anyone that's going to like not think they have a problem
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is not going to be like, I'm going to wait.
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They're really I can be fun.
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So yeah, that kind of sucks when it happens like that.
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All right, guys, well, that's all I have this week.
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Don't forget to send me your confessions on social media on Mondays.
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We do unpopular opinions on Fridays.
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We do your confessions.
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So hold on to those cool confessions.
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So I we have different themes, but otherwise I can't wait to read on.
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And of course, always some of your wedding story submissions.
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They can be wedding proposal engagement, dating, friendship, whatever stories.
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We're going to open our horizons a little bit.
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Feel free to tell me your stories.
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And I think that's all I got for you guys.
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Thank you so much for hanging out with me.
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Don't forget you can now order my book here comes the drama of Harrison's son story.
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Wherever you get books.
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And when I say wherever it's not really wherever it's like Amazon, Kobo Barnes and Noble, Ingram Spark.
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Yeah.
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And don't forget to tag me on social media if you have read it.
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And you've tagged me at party planning by Christa for a chance to be featured on my page.
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I had a total like brain fart just now.
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I was like, what am I talking about where am I?
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This is how my brain has been.
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I just love you guys.
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I'm so grateful for this podcast.
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I'm so grateful for you guys and for the ability to be able to do this.
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So thank you so much.
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And I'll see you guys next time.
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Bye now.
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Thanks so much for tuning in to Here Comes the Drama.
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If you enjoyed this episode, don't forget to rate, review, and share it with a friend who loves a good story.
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And make sure you're following me on all socials at party planning by Christa for even more stories,
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skits, and a little extra drama.
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Until next time, protect your piece and I'll see you soon.
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Bye now.
Topics Covered
wedding dress shopping
bridesmaid drama
wedding planning
unpopular opinions
wedding traditions
intimate proposals
wedding coordination
non-traditional weddings
engagement rings
wedding party dynamics
personalized weddings
dessert tables
quick wedding ceremonies
parent involvement in weddings
bridal assistant insights